All that matches isn't meant to be

---- exactly 1 month later, I have some updates---

I'd like to say that I don't know off the top of my head how match-dates I have had. I do know that I have had my profile viewed 11689 times (so far). I've received countless (only because I didn't count them) winks, and about half as many e-mails. Of the e-mails received I engaged in some kind of exchange with probably 1/3 of those, and my dates below are the result. A lot of hard work, determination, writing and wit was invested into securing these (ha ha). And now, the results of the three month stint on match.com.

1. J. Rome- Dinner date. Funny guy. Can't say more as J. Rome has become a friend and might read this. =)

2. Tall Man- Cute picture. We e-mailed for a while and then went to get lunch. Unfortunately, he was a bit awkward. I should have known as the emails were at times awkward. So then the whole thing became awkward. I had to carry the whole freaking conversation. Thought about requesting the lunch hour to be reduced to 45 minutes.

3. TeaTim- We talked mostly about cooking and going out in San Francisco. We met for Tea on Clement. Nice guy. We talked about reading, writing, our jobs. I never heard from him again, although I did see him walking to the same cafe one night.

4. OldManPeter- A bit out of my age range, but I conceded to go because he was very cute, nice, well spoken. Apparently he didn't think the same of me 'cuz after our date at Solistice he never called. Not a biggie, since it felt like I was being taken out by someone's older mature brother. ****And he's sent me two emails last week. It's been at least 2 months after our initial date. Sorry, you're a little late.

5. BillyBoy- oh, please go read about BillyBoy in the archives. He's from Los Angeles. =)

6. YoungBuck- How classic that I should run into him today. I didn't really want to go to lunch with him, but he kind of pressured me into it. Anyway, it was pretty terrible, starting with him asking me to take off my sunglasses. After that he continued to make remarks about my age, and how I probably wanted to date older men who would be my sugar daddies and buy me things. Then, after I said that we probably wouldn't be going out again (yes, he asked) he decided to e-mail me and make me the following offer " If you are ever want to hang out, or just be Friends-with-benefits he would be open to that." hahahahahahahahahh

7. TexasMan- Quick onto e-mail. Met for wine. A bit frail for me. Very funny and smart though. Apparently our meeting brought out some matchimosity though. A little to much rant for a girl from VA.

8. (OldManJohn) aka SensitveRacer- Have gone out twice. Had a great time. He's concerned that our lifestyles wouldn't mix, because of my late night raves. Oh wait. I don't do raves, and am in bed by 10pm most nights. There might be other things going on. Dunno. *** I have received a complaint from OldManJohn. Apparently he found the blog and is mad that I wrote about him. When I promised not to record our follies, I didn't know that I was going to do do a recap of all my dates. I have amended his "call name". =)

9. Swingin'Scott- Doesn't have picture on match, because he doesn't want to tell his friends about it. First suspicion was that he was married. He was going the friends-with-benefits angle. Although e-mailing and text messaging was fun, the actual meeting was flat. Turn offs: Swingin'.

10. StevieStiggs- Cute, nice, maybe a bit shy? Did match as a joke, which makes me feel on less of an even footing with him. .. and the rest is Private. Ha Ha Ha

11. SugarRay- very PHOTOGENIC, it appears. I'm thinking he thought that he might've been let the genie out of the bottle and was meeting his first wish. Coffe, bagel, and then we said goodbye.

12. Single Dad- yet to meet, although looks like his interest has faded. *** I say his interest is now 6 feet under.

13. High Flyer- been there, done that, bubble but. Went to italian, he told me he wanted to convert me to be an evangelical christian. yup, he totally "got me". I thought I was goign to absolutely die. Funny, but unfortunately no chemistry.

Number of dates: 12 (so far)
Number of friends: 1 (so far)
Number of make-out session: 0 (so far) **** 1 - No, your eyes are not deceiving you. This little girl from the Park got to make out with a hottie off match. And it was pretty darn fun. =) ******and again.

Fee paid for match.com: $50
Getting some blog material: Priceless

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Books are cool!

For a couple of years now (I KNOW!!!) we've had quite the little book club going. Most of us girls live in they city of San Francisco, and we meet once a month at our host's house where we drink great wine, nibble on some fantastic food, and discuss the chosen book.

If I was able to describe my feelings about the selection in a word or so, I have.


Bel Canto by Ann Patchett (March) great read

Lovely Bones by Alice Sebold (April) deep and sad

The Secret Life of Bees by Sue Monk Kidd (July) lovely

Atonement by Ian McEwen(September) uhmm. still have not finished it- maybe I'll try again

Da Vinci Code by Dan Brown(October) thrilling

Life of Pie by Yann Martel(December) please read the entire thing- don't give up- it's amazing

The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Nighttime by Mark Haddon (January) a favorite

The Last Girls by Lee Smith (February) yuck

Lolita by Vladimir Nabokov (March) interesting and disturbing

Blue Angel by Francine Prose (May) can't recommend

Perfume by Patrick Suskind (June) interesting perspective on life in early france

The Rule of Four by Ian Caldwell and Dustin Thomason (July) -not sure how this managed to get published- complete garbage

The Dirt by Motley Crue (August) made me like MC all over again

The Other Boleyn Girl by Philippa Gregory(September) LOVED IT!

A Girl Becomes a Comma Like That by Lisa Glatt(October) wish the writer had not forced her amazing short stories into something else

Kite Runner by Khaled Hosseini (November) really pleasantly suprised- great discussion

Catcher in the Rye by J.D. Salinger (January) good book- glad I'm not in HS anymore

The Unbearable Lightness of Being (February) a little odd, with nuggets of wisdom such as that you only live one life, in a linear fashion- so trying to figure out what might have been is completely irrational.

The Plot Against America (March) I can't say I absolutely loved it, or for that matter even finished it, but it did start a very good discussion at the book club. I'd recommend for that reason alone.

My Sisters' Keeper (April) Tears, tears and more tears. A serious discussion followed. Definitely a good book club book. Even if at times it would have profited from some depth.

One Thousand White Women (May) Not bad, not good. Kind of a stereotype book about early america. Could have been funnier, but wasn't.

Confederacy of Dunces (July) Uhm. I really didn't like it. People did. I finished it, but only because I really wanted to make sure that there wasn't $100 dollars in there I was supposed to find as incentive for buying the $3 book.

The Time Travelers Wife (August) Amazing book. I highly recommend it. It was awesome.

The Fabulist (September)

Pirate Love

I don't know why that is, but I really like our robbing, sailing, pillaging friends on boats.

I have an unexplainable fondess for all things pirate. Maybe it's because:

They looked for treasure.
They looked for booty.
They had a unique sense of style.
They had boats.
They were not afraid of heights.
They liked monkeys.
They liked to party.
They were rebels.

"Argh."

One in a million, huh?  

THE B-WORD

... headers and first paragraphs taken from Jellybean.com (don't ask)

Know What You’re Looking For
This is really important, because once you get a boyfriend you actually have to spend time with him! That can be a huge drag if he doesn't have the right qualities to make you happy. Make a list of qualities that your ideal boyfriend should have, such as intelligence, looks, sense of humor, a passion for music, or respect for other people's feelings.

*My list of wanted qualities*
Hot
Funny
Smart
Rich
Generous
Focused
Social
Local

Be Ready to Love a New Guy
Do a self-check and make sure you are over old hurts and disappointments in love. You're only set for a new relationship if you can put aside any grudges or crushes on old boyfriends, so you're ready to move on.

Hmmm. Setting aside grudges might be difficult. The crush thing? I think it's healthy to have crushes on people. But overall there is noone in my life that I'd like to be dating.

Put Your Best Self Forward
Attract the type of guy you're looking for by emphasizing your best features and downplaying negative qualities. That means making the most of what you have, both physically and mentally. For example, if you don’t like your flat chest but you’ve got wicked muscular thighs, show off your best assets in cute minis that put the attention on your great legs. If you're not much of a comedian in class, but you are a caring type of person, go out of your way to be helpful to others and let that compassion shine.

Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative. Hmm. So is being a smart-ass positive or negative? I guess a flat chest is a negative? Who knew! What is drinking considered?

Have a Life of Your Own
Boys can sense when a girl is desperate for a boyfriend, and it makes them run in the other direction. Most boys want to hook up with confident girls who seem like they don't need a boyfriend to have a good time. If you appear to be happy, self-assured and fun to be around, guys will take a second look at you. Yes, boys like good-looking girls, but beauty only gets you so far. Most boys with any dating experience know that it's better to date a fun and interesting regular chick, than a boring as mud beauty queen.

I hope I can fool them all into thinking that I have a good time with my friends! I hope to APPEAR happy, self-assured and fun.. And again, glad to hear that you have to be EITHER fun and interesting and plain OR boring and cute.

Take a Second Look
Consider any unattached guys at your school or job, or even the sons of your parents' friends. Maybe you think you're already considered everyone, but think again! Open your mind to guys you already know, but might have overlooked for shallow reasons, such as a lame fashion style. When you look deeper, do any of them have the qualities that you want in a boyfriend?

Nope. Still no one. Nope.
.. and yes, I understand the whole theory about picking the best available to you, but c'mon..!

Get Involved
One of the best ways to meet new guys - and to get to know them better - is to get involved in school activities. Find out what's offered at your school, such as clubs, sports teams, and other extra-curricular activities. Join activities that you enjoy or that you are sincerely interested in, so you can meet people with similar interests. From soccer to drama to yearbook, most schools offer many opportunities for teens to get involved. This can be an amazing way to meet new guys, expand your horizons and widen your circle of friends at the same time.

Shit. I don't go to school.

Send a Message
If you have your eye on a certain hottie, let mutual friends know about your interest in him. Ask someone you trust to discreetly tell him about your crush.

Shit.

Flirt!
Flirting really is a girl's best friend. Once you've set your sights on a cutie, take things to the next step by learning to attract his attention with flirting. This can help you become friendly with him, and you can learn to send the subtle signal that you're interested in becoming more than just friends. You can find awesome flirting tips right in this very Flirting Guide.

I don't know how. I know it's hard to believe, but I think I'm kinda shy.

Try the Direct Approach
For bold girls, sometimes the direct approach applies. This doesn't mean walking up to your crush and saying, "I like you, wanna go out?" which is highly risky and could backfire. Instead, be bold in the right setting, such as asking your crush to dance to a slow song at the school dance, or telling him you had a dream that you two were a couple and it was so sweet. His reaction will let you know if he's interested!

HA HA HA HA. You've got to be f'n kidding.

Keep Your Eyes and Heart Open
Love can surface in unexpected places and at unexpected times. Keep your eyes open wherever you are and learn to look beneath the surface of guys. Remember, the right guy for you is somewhere out there, and he's looking for you too!

He is? I hope he gets here soon, 'cause I just turned thirty, and someone told me last month that i'm pretty much SOL if I dont' start having kids this year.. THANKS!